Feelings & Needs
Positive Feelings
Feelings when your needs are satisfied:
AFFECTIONATE compassionate friendly loving open hearted sympathetic tender warm
ENGAGED absorbed alert curious engrossed enchanted entranced fascinated interested intrigued involved spellbound stimulated
HOPEFUL expectant encouraged optimistic
CONFIDENT empowered open proud safe secure
EXCITED amazed animated ardent aroused astonished dazzled eager energetic enthusiastic giddy invigorated lively passionate surprised vibrant
GRATEFUL appreciative moved thankful touched
INSPIRED amazed awed wonder
JOYFUL amused delighted glad happy jubilant pleased tickled
EXHILARATED blissful ecstatic elated enthralled exuberant radiant rapturous thrilled
PEACEFUL calm clear headed comfortable centered content equanimous fulfilled mellow quiet relaxed relieved satisfied serene still tranquil trusting
REFRESHED enlivened rejuvenated renewed rested restored revive
Negative Feelings
Feelings when your needs are not satisfied
AFRAID apprehensive dread foreboding frightened mistrustful panicked petrified scared suspicious terrified wary worried
ANNOYED aggravated dismayed disgruntled displeased exasperated frustrated impatient irritated irked
ANGRY enraged furious incensed indignant irate livid outraged resentful
AVERSION animosity appalled contempt disgusted dislike hate horrified hostile repulsed
CONFUSED ambivalent baffled bewildered dazed hesitant lost mystified perplexed puzzled torn
DISCONNECTED alienated aloof apathetic bored cold detached distant distracted indifferent numb removed uninterested withdrawn
DISQUIET agitated alarmed discombobulated disconcerted disturbed perturbed rattled restless shocked startled surprised troubled turbulent turmoil uncomfortable uneasy unnerved unsettled upset
EMBARRASSED ashamed chagrined flustered guilty mortified self-conscious
FATIGUE beat burnt out depleted exhausted lethargic listless sleepy tired weary worn out
PAIN agony anguished bereaved devastated grief heartbroken hurt lonely miserable regretful remorseful
SAD depressed dejected despair despondent disappointed discouraged disheartened forlorn gloomy heavy hearted hopeless melancholy unhappy wretched
TENSE anxious cranky distressed distraught edgy fidgety frazzled irritable jittery nervous overwhelmed restless stressed out
VULNERABLE fragile guarded helpless insecure leery reserved sensitive shaky
YEARNING envious jealous longing nostalgic pining wistful
Needs
Describing what you need can be harder than just describing the feeling. CNVC has a Needs Inventory] list as well.
CONNECTION acceptance affection appreciation belonging cooperation communication closeness community companionship compassion consideration consistency empathy inclusion intimacy love mutuality nurturing respect/self-respect safety security stability support to know and be known to see and be seen to understand and be understood trust warmth
PHYSICAL WELL-BEING air food movement/exercise rest/sleep sexual expression safety shelter touch water
HONESTY authenticity integrity presence
PLAY joy humor
PEACE beauty communion ease equality harmony inspiration order
AUTONOMY choice freedom independence space spontaneity
MEANING awareness celebration of life challenge clarity competence consciousness contribution creativity discovery efficacy effectiveness growth hope learning mourning participation purpose self-expression stimulation to matter understanding