Restorative Communication - Revision history

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	{{headerbox}}'''Restorative communication''' is a way to repair relationships that have been damaged by conflict, and prevent future conflicts from arising. By choosing our words carefully, we can experience dramatic shifts in our results.		{{headerbox}}'''Restorative communication''' is a way to repair relationships that have been damaged by conflict, and prevent future conflicts from arising. By choosing our words carefully, we can experience dramatic shifts in our results.
	* '''EVENTS:'''		* '''EVENTS:'''
	** Communication Practice Mondays on [[Discord]] 6:30-7pm,		** Communication Practice Mondays on [[Discord]] 6:30-7pm with fellow Noisebridgers,
	**~~followed by Newt Bailey's~~ [[Communication Dojo]] Drop-in class Mondays 7-9pm.		**[[Communication Dojo]] Drop-in class Mondays 7-9pm with teacher Newt Bailey.
			**Wednesday Communication Dojo Practice Night, details on their site
	* '''MAINTAINERS:''' [[User:Nthmost]], [[User:Lxpk]]		* '''MAINTAINERS:''' [[User:Nthmost]], [[User:Lxpk]]
	* '''RESOURCES:''' [https://www.kindus.org/resources GKI Intro to Resorative Communication], [https://www.communicationdojo.com/monday-drop-in-resource-page Communication Dojo links & downloads]		* '''RESOURCES:''' [https://www.kindus.org/resources GKI Intro to Resorative Communication], [https://www.communicationdojo.com/monday-drop-in-resource-page Communication Dojo links & downloads]

Lxpk at 23:24, 12 January 2022

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	{{headerbox}}'''Restorative communication''' is a way to repair relationships that have been damaged by conflict, and prevent future conflicts from arising. By choosing our words carefully, we can experience dramatic shifts in our results.		{{headerbox}}'''Restorative communication''' is a way to repair relationships that have been damaged by conflict, and prevent future conflicts from arising. By choosing our words carefully, we can experience dramatic shifts in our results.
	* '''EVENTS:''' Communication Practice Mondays on [[Discord]] 6:30-7pm, followed by Newt Bailey's [Communication Dojo] Drop-in class Mondays 7-9pm.		* '''EVENTS:'''
			** Communication Practice Mondays on [[Discord]] 6:30-7pm,
			**followed by Newt Bailey's [[Communication Dojo]] Drop-in class Mondays 7-9pm.
	* '''MAINTAINERS:''' [[User:Nthmost]], [[User:Lxpk]]		* '''MAINTAINERS:''' [[User:Nthmost]], [[User:Lxpk]]
	* '''RESOURCES:''' [https://www.kindus.org/resources GKI Intro to Resorative Communication], [https://www.communicationdojo.com/monday-drop-in-resource-page Communication Dojo links & downloads]		* '''RESOURCES:''' [https://www.kindus.org/resources GKI Intro to Resorative Communication], [https://www.communicationdojo.com/monday-drop-in-resource-page Communication Dojo links & downloads]

Lxpk at 23:24, 12 January 2022

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	{{headerbox}}'''Restorative communication''' is a way to repair relationships that have been damaged by conflict, and prevent future conflicts from arising. By choosing our words carefully, we can experience dramatic shifts in our results.		{{headerbox}}'''Restorative communication''' is a way to repair relationships that have been damaged by conflict, and prevent future conflicts from arising. By choosing our words carefully, we can experience dramatic shifts in our results.
	* '''EVENTS:''' Communication Practice Mondays 6:30-7pm, followed by ~~optional~~ [~~https://www.communicationdojo.com/monday-drop-in-nvc-online-class~~ Communication Dojo Drop-in ~~Online Class]~~ Mondays 7-9pm.		* '''EVENTS:''' Communication Practice Mondays on [[Discord]] 6:30-7pm, followed by Newt Bailey's [Communication Dojo] Drop-in class Mondays 7-9pm.
	* '''MAINTAINERS:''' [[User:Nthmost]], [[User:Lxpk]]		* '''MAINTAINERS:''' [[User:Nthmost]], [[User:Lxpk]]
	* '''RESOURCES:''' [https://www.kindus.org/resources GKI Intro to Resorative Communication], [https://www.communicationdojo.com/monday-drop-in-resource-page Communication Dojo links & downloads]		* '''RESOURCES:''' [https://www.kindus.org/resources GKI Intro to Resorative Communication], [https://www.communicationdojo.com/monday-drop-in-resource-page Communication Dojo links & downloads]

Lxpk at 05:16, 11 January 2022

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	The above text is from the Global Kindness Initiative guides. Download them for yourself here:		The above text is from the Global Kindness Initiative guides. Download them for yourself here:
	* [https://4bdda49c-9369-4966-b6fc-7eb483de2338.filesusr.com/ugd/40a576_d2f4427fbe284bc99b80eabb4816b9d8.pdf Global Kindness Initiative Restorative Communication Guide PDF]		* [https://4bdda49c-9369-4966-b6fc-7eb483de2338.filesusr.com/ugd/40a576_d2f4427fbe284bc99b80eabb4816b9d8.pdf Global Kindness Initiative Restorative Communication Guide PDF]



	~~== Practice Exercises ==~~
	~~We can practice restorative and connected communication with some exercises designed to simulate real-world situations.~~

	* '''Observations:''' Practice making observations in a neutral, descriptive way without including judgements or blame.
	* '''Feelings & Needs:''' Practice expressing how you're feeling about something and what needs you might feel aren't being met.
	* '''[[Empathy Guesses]]:''' Practice guessing what the other person might be feeling in particular situations and clarifying till you figure it out. This develops familiarity with the Feelings & Needs Inventories and makes it easier to get it right more quickly.
	* '''Making offers & requests:''' Practice offering and requesting things that would meet both parties' needs for mutual understanding.

	~~== Communication Habit Practice ==~~
	~~# List some of your communication habits you use often.~~
	~~# List some of the listening habits that often bother you.~~
	~~## Eg. Storytelling. Telling people how you had the same problem or your family member did.~~
	~~# List some needs they might be fulfilling by using those strategies.~~
	~~# Have someone share a problem they're having and have everyone practice interrupting and using the habits in response to show all the examples.~~
	# Take turns sharing a non-serious problem scenario and first give habit-based responses for 2 minutes then switch to empathetic listening where you ask questions like "I hear you saying that when you saw X happen you felt Y because you need Z and its difficult to feel like you're getting Z..."

	~~== Connected Conversation Practice ==~~
	~~Both sharea chunk at a time and reflect before moving on.~~

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Communication Habit Practice

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	# Have someone share a problem they're having and have everyone practice interrupting and using the habits in response to show all the examples.		# Have someone share a problem they're having and have everyone practice interrupting and using the habits in response to show all the examples.
	# Take turns sharing a non-serious problem scenario and first give habit-based responses for 2 minutes then switch to empathetic listening where you ask questions like "I hear you saying that when you saw X happen you felt Y because you need Z and its difficult to feel like you're getting Z..."		# Take turns sharing a non-serious problem scenario and first give habit-based responses for 2 minutes then switch to empathetic listening where you ask questions like "I hear you saying that when you saw X happen you felt Y because you need Z and its difficult to feel like you're getting Z..."

			== Connected Conversation Practice ==
			Both sharea chunk at a time and reflect before moving on.

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	## Eg. Storytelling. Telling people how you had the same problem or your family member did.		## Eg. Storytelling. Telling people how you had the same problem or your family member did.
	# List some needs they might be fulfilling by using those strategies.		# List some needs they might be fulfilling by using those strategies.
			# Have someone share a problem they're having and have everyone practice interrupting and using the habits in response to show all the examples.
			# Take turns sharing a non-serious problem scenario and first give habit-based responses for 2 minutes then switch to empathetic listening where you ask questions like "I hear you saying that when you saw X happen you felt Y because you need Z and its difficult to feel like you're getting Z..."

Lxpk at 03:59, 11 January 2022

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	* '''[[Empathy Guesses]]:''' Practice guessing what the other person might be feeling in particular situations and clarifying till you figure it out. This develops familiarity with the Feelings & Needs Inventories and makes it easier to get it right more quickly.		* '''[[Empathy Guesses]]:''' Practice guessing what the other person might be feeling in particular situations and clarifying till you figure it out. This develops familiarity with the Feelings & Needs Inventories and makes it easier to get it right more quickly.
	* '''Making offers & requests:''' Practice offering and requesting things that would meet both parties' needs for mutual understanding.		* '''Making offers & requests:''' Practice offering and requesting things that would meet both parties' needs for mutual understanding.

			== Communication Habit Practice ==
			# List some of your communication habits you use often.
			# List some of the listening habits that often bother you.
			## Eg. Storytelling. Telling people how you had the same problem or your family member did.
			# List some needs they might be fulfilling by using those strategies.

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Feelings

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	The above text is from the Global Kindness Initiative guides. Download them for yourself here:		The above text is from the Global Kindness Initiative guides. Download them for yourself here:
	* [https://4bdda49c-9369-4966-b6fc-7eb483de2338.filesusr.com/ugd/40a576_d2f4427fbe284bc99b80eabb4816b9d8.pdf Global Kindness Initiative Restorative Communication Guide PDF]		* [https://4bdda49c-9369-4966-b6fc-7eb483de2338.filesusr.com/ugd/40a576_d2f4427fbe284bc99b80eabb4816b9d8.pdf Global Kindness Initiative Restorative Communication Guide PDF]

	~~= Feelings =~~
	~~It can be hard to think of the right words to describe feelings for ourselves, let alone to guess how someone else is feeling.~~

	~~The Center for Nonviolent Communication publishes a nice [https://www.cnvc.org/training/resource/feelings-inventory Feelings Inventory list]:~~

	* [https://www.cnvc.org/sites/default/files/2018-10/CNVC-feelings-inventory.pdf Downloaod CNVC Feelings Inventory PDF]
	* [https://www.cnvc.org/sites/default/files/2018-10/CNVC-needs-inventory.pdf CNVC Needs Inventory PDF]

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COMMUNICATION DOJO CLASSES

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	* [https://www.cnvc.org/sites/default/files/2018-10/CNVC-needs-inventory.pdf CNVC Needs Inventory PDF]		* [https://www.cnvc.org/sites/default/files/2018-10/CNVC-needs-inventory.pdf CNVC Needs Inventory PDF]

	~~= COMMUNICATION DOJO CLASSES =~~
	If you would like to learn connected conversation / NVC skills in a wonderful free/sliding scale class, Newt's Communication Dojo hosts a [https://www.communicationdojo.com/monday-drop-in-nvc-online-class drop-in workshop] every Monday night from 7-9PM.

	~~Some features of the Communication Dojo practice environment:~~

	* Chances to use your real-life situations to guide experiential learning
	* Efficient use of group time to maximize learning
	* High proportion of practice time in pairs - learning communication by communicating.
	* Minimal "jargon" i.e. language that might be confusing or alienating for those not familiar with NVC.
	* Little likelihood of people developing any sense of "Doing it wrong" or "Trying to do it right."
	* Mixture of experience levels deepens practice and learning
	* [https://ee450fd5-b32d-4cff-a0f8-94fef0a52f2e.usrfiles.com/ugd/ee450f_e1ae94fce1194f44a5f9d74fb56a292b.pdf Communication Dojo Connected Conversation Overview PDF]

	== Practice Exercises ==		== Practice Exercises ==

Lxpk at 08:55, 8 January 2022

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