86 Sponsor - Revision history

Nthmost: Add Conflict Escalation to See Also

2026-01-01T05:32:48Z

Add Conflict Escalation to See Also

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	* [[Path_to_86]] - How someone ends up on (and gets off) the 86 page		* [[Path_to_86]] - How someone ends up on (and gets off) the 86 page
	* [[86]] - The list of banned individuals		* [[86]] - The list of banned individuals
			* [[Conflict Escalation]] - Understanding conflict stages and appropriate interventions
	* [[Restorative Communication]] - Communication framework for repairing relationships		* [[Restorative Communication]] - Communication framework for repairing relationships
	* [[Conflict Resolution]] - Overview of how we handle conflicts		* [[Conflict Resolution]] - Overview of how we handle conflicts
	* [[Mediation]] - The mediation process		* [[Mediation]] - The mediation process (for early-stage conflicts)

Nthmost: Add Restorative Communication references; add warning about harmed people not wanting to engage

2025-12-31T11:03:10Z

Add Restorative Communication references; add warning about harmed people not wanting to engage

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	* '''Read the 86 page entry''' - But don't stop there. The entry is intentionally minimal.		* '''Read the 86 page entry''' - But don't stop there. The entry is intentionally minimal.
	* '''Talk to people who were harmed''' - Not just witnesses, but the people who experienced the harm directly. Listen without defending.		* '''Talk to people who were harmed''' - Not just witnesses, but the people who experienced the harm directly. Listen without defending. Use [[Restorative Communication]] skills: focus on understanding their feelings and needs, not on building your case.
	* '''Talk to people who were present''' - Get multiple perspectives on what happened and the context around it.		* '''Talk to people who were present''' - Get multiple perspectives on what happened and the context around it.
	* '''Don't rely on the banned person's account''' - They have every reason to minimize or reframe. You need independent understanding.		* '''Don't rely on the banned person's account''' - They have every reason to minimize or reframe. You need independent understanding.
	* '''Identify who would feel unsafe''' - Through your conversations, find out which community members would feel unsafe around, or be completely unwelcoming towards, the person you want to sponsor. This is critical information.		* '''Identify who would feel unsafe''' - Through your conversations, find out which community members would feel unsafe around, or be completely unwelcoming towards, the person you want to sponsor. This is critical information.

			<div style="background-color: #f8d7da; border-left: 4px solid #dc3545; padding: 12px; margin: 1em 0;">
			'''🛑 Some people will not want to talk to you about this.'''

			Some community members who were harmed by the 86'd person '''do not want to revisit that harm''' - not even to help you understand it. Being asked to explain, justify, or relive their experience causes them ''additional'' harm.

			'''You must respect this.''' If someone declines to discuss the situation, that is their answer. Do not push. Do not try to convince them. Do not go around them.

			This may mean you cannot get the buy-in you need. If key people affected by the original harm are unwilling to engage with the possibility of this person's return, '''that may be your answer.''' The sponsorship cannot proceed without their willingness - and their unwillingness is itself meaningful information about whether this return is appropriate.
			</div>

	Only after you have done this work can you:		Only after you have done this work can you:
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	* [[Path_to_86]] - How someone ends up on (and gets off) the 86 page		* [[Path_to_86]] - How someone ends up on (and gets off) the 86 page
	* [[86]] - The list of banned individuals		* [[86]] - The list of banned individuals
			* [[Restorative Communication]] - Communication framework for repairing relationships
	* [[Conflict Resolution]] - Overview of how we handle conflicts		* [[Conflict Resolution]] - Overview of how we handle conflicts
	* [[Mediation]] - The mediation process		* [[Mediation]] - The mediation process

Nthmost: Add emojis and amber accent color to warning box

2025-12-31T10:40:58Z

Add emojis and amber accent color to warning box

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	== Before You Agree to Sponsor ==		== Before You Agree to Sponsor ==

	=== Ask Yourself These Questions ===		=== 🪞 Ask Yourself These Questions ===

	# '''Do I actually know this person well enough?''' Not just their version of events, but their patterns of behavior over time?		# '''Do I actually know this person well enough?''' Not just their version of events, but their patterns of behavior over time?
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	== Your Responsibilities as a Sponsor ==		== Your Responsibilities as a Sponsor ==

	=== Before the Return: Understand the Harm ===		=== 🔍 Before the Return: Understand the Harm ===

	'''Your primary responsibility as a sponsor is to understand the harm that was caused.''' This is non-negotiable. If you cannot articulate at a meeting what harm was caused and who was harmed, you have no credibility as a sponsor.		'''Your primary responsibility as a sponsor is to understand the harm that was caused.''' This is non-negotiable. If you cannot articulate at a meeting what harm was caused and who was harmed, you have no credibility as a sponsor.
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	* '''Negotiate terms''' - Work with community members to establish what "probation" looks like: time limits, restricted areas, specific behaviors to demonstrate, etc.		* '''Negotiate terms''' - Work with community members to establish what "probation" looks like: time limits, restricted areas, specific behaviors to demonstrate, etc.

	=== The Consensus Proposal ===		=== 📋 The Consensus Proposal ===

	Bringing someone back from the 86 page requires a [[consensus]] proposal. Like all consensus proposals at Noisebridge, you propose at one meeting, and it can be consensed upon at the following meeting.		Bringing someone back from the 86 page requires a [[consensus]] proposal. Like all consensus proposals at Noisebridge, you propose at one meeting, and it can be consensed upon at the following meeting.
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	* Built broad agreement that this return makes sense		* Built broad agreement that this return makes sense

	~~{{box}}~~		<div style="background-color: #fff3cd; border-left: 4px solid #ff9800; padding: 12px; margin: 1em 0;">
	'''WARNING: Do not skip ahead to the meeting.'''		'''⚠️ WARNING: Do not skip ahead to the meeting.'''

	If you put up a consensus proposal out of the blue - before you've had these conversations with the community - the reception will be extremely poor. You will succeed only in raising people's blood pressure and tanking your own reputation.		If you put up a consensus proposal out of the blue - before you've had these conversations with the community - the reception will be extremely poor. You will succeed only in raising people's blood pressure and tanking your own reputation.
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	The meeting is where you formalize agreement that already exists. It is not where you build that agreement.		The meeting is where you formalize agreement that already exists. It is not where you build that agreement.
	~~{{boxend}}~~		</div>

	If you've done the work properly, the meeting should be straightforward. People will already know who you are, what you're proposing, and why. They'll have had a chance to raise concerns privately. The proposal itself becomes a formality confirming what the community has already worked through together.		If you've done the work properly, the meeting should be straightforward. People will already know who you are, what you're proposing, and why. They'll have had a chance to raise concerns privately. The proposal itself becomes a formality confirming what the community has already worked through together.
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	If you haven't done the work, no amount of eloquence at the meeting will save you.		If you haven't done the work, no amount of eloquence at the meeting will save you.

	=== During the Probationary Period ===		=== 👀 During the Probationary Period ===

	* '''Be physically present''' - When possible, be at Noisebridge at the same time as the person you sponsored		* '''Be physically present''' - When possible, be at Noisebridge at the same time as the person you sponsored
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	When you sponsor someone, you're providing the bridge between the community's need for accountability and the possibility of genuine redemption. It's a valuable role - but only if you take it seriously.		When you sponsor someone, you're providing the bridge between the community's need for accountability and the possibility of genuine redemption. It's a valuable role - but only if you take it seriously.

	If you're not willing to accept the responsibility and risk involved, '''it's better to say no'''. There's no shame in declining. In fact, declining when you're uncertain is itself a form of excellent community stewardship.		If you're not willing to accept the responsibility and risk involved, '''it's better to say no'''. There's no shame in declining. In fact, declining when you're uncertain is itself a form of excellent community stewardship. ✨

	== See Also ==		== See Also ==

Nthmost: Add consensus proposal process section with strong warning about doing groundwork first

2025-12-31T10:10:37Z

Add consensus proposal process section with strong warning about doing groundwork first

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	* '''Set clear expectations''' - Make sure the person you're sponsoring understands this is probationary and conditional		* '''Set clear expectations''' - Make sure the person you're sponsoring understands this is probationary and conditional
	* '''Negotiate terms''' - Work with community members to establish what "probation" looks like: time limits, restricted areas, specific behaviors to demonstrate, etc.		* '''Negotiate terms''' - Work with community members to establish what "probation" looks like: time limits, restricted areas, specific behaviors to demonstrate, etc.

			=== The Consensus Proposal ===

			Bringing someone back from the 86 page requires a [[consensus]] proposal. Like all consensus proposals at Noisebridge, you propose at one meeting, and it can be consensed upon at the following meeting.

			'''However - and this is critical - the proposal comes LAST, not first.'''

			The consensus proposal is the final step, after you have already:
			* Done all the discovery work described above
			* Had extensive conversations with community members
			* Identified concerns and worked through them
			* Built broad agreement that this return makes sense

			{{box}}
			'''WARNING: Do not skip ahead to the meeting.'''

			If you put up a consensus proposal out of the blue - before you've had these conversations with the community - the reception will be extremely poor. You will succeed only in raising people's blood pressure and tanking your own reputation.

			'''The success of the consensus proposal depends 100% on building the consensus ahead of time - through all those conversations. NOT at the meeting.'''

			The meeting is where you formalize agreement that already exists. It is not where you build that agreement.
			{{boxend}}

			If you've done the work properly, the meeting should be straightforward. People will already know who you are, what you're proposing, and why. They'll have had a chance to raise concerns privately. The proposal itself becomes a formality confirming what the community has already worked through together.

			If you haven't done the work, no amount of eloquence at the meeting will save you.

	=== During the Probationary Period ===		=== During the Probationary Period ===
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	If the person you sponsored reverts to harmful behavior:		If the person you sponsored reverts to harmful behavior:

	* '''Act quickly''' - Don't wait for it to escalate.		* '''Act quickly''' - Don't wait for it to escalate
	* '''Take responsibility''' - You vouched for them. Acknowledge that.		* '''Take responsibility''' - You vouched for them. Acknowledge that.
	* '''Help enforce the consequence''' - You may need to be the one who asks them to leave again.		* '''Help enforce the consequence''' - You may need to be the one who asks them to leave again
	* '''Learn from it''' - This doesn't mean never sponsor anyone again, but it should inform your judgment going forward.		* '''Learn from it''' - This doesn't mean never sponsor anyone again, but it should inform your judgment going forward

	== What Probation Looks Like ==		== What Probation Looks Like ==
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	There's no standard template - each situation is different. But probation typically involves:		There's no standard template - each situation is different. But probation typically involves:

	* '''A defined time period''' - ~~Possibly some number of~~ months		* '''A defined time period''' - Often several months
	* '''Defined time windows''' - Spans of time when this person CAN be there, outside of which they should not be. This is the best way to make it possible for more skeptical community members to "titrate" their exposure to this person.
	* '''Increased scrutiny''' - People will be watching more closely than normal		* '''Increased scrutiny''' - People will be watching more closely than normal
	* '''Quick consequences''' - Less tolerance for behavior that would normally get a warning		* '''Quick consequences''' - Less tolerance for behavior that would normally get a warning
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	* '''Gradual trust-building''' - The person earns back trust through demonstrated behavior over time, not through a single grand gesture		* '''Gradual trust-building''' - The person earns back trust through demonstrated behavior over time, not through a single grand gesture

	Trust is rebuilt '''individually, not collectively'''. Different community members will come to trust the person again at different rates - or not at all.		Trust is rebuilt '''individually, not collectively'''. Different community members will come to trust the person again at different rates - or not at all. That's normal and acceptable.

	== What You're NOT Responsible For ==		== What You're NOT Responsible For ==
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	* '''Making everyone like them again''' - That's not your job and it's not possible to force		* '''Making everyone like them again''' - That's not your job and it's not possible to force
	* '''Their behavior after probation ends''' - At some point, they're responsible for themselves		* '''Their behavior after probation ends''' - At some point, they're responsible for themselves
			* '''Convincing skeptics''' - Some people may never trust your sponsee again. That's their prerogative.

	== Why This Matters ==		== Why This Matters ==

Nthmost: /* What Probation Looks Like */ refinements

2025-12-31T10:04:31Z

What Probation Looks Like: refinements

Nthmost: Emphasize harm understanding as primary sponsor responsibility; replace stewards with community members

2025-12-31T09:53:23Z

Emphasize harm understanding as primary sponsor responsibility; replace stewards with community members

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	# '''Am I prepared to be present and involved?''' Sponsoring isn't just getting someone in the door - it's active involvement during their probationary period.		# '''Am I prepared to be present and involved?''' Sponsoring isn't just getting someone in the door - it's active involvement during their probationary period.
	# '''Am I doing this for the right reasons?''' Friendship alone isn't enough. You need to genuinely believe this benefits Noisebridge, not just your friend.		# '''Am I doing this for the right reasons?''' Friendship alone isn't enough. You need to genuinely believe this benefits Noisebridge, not just your friend.
	# '''Do I ~~understand what got them 86'd~~?''' Have I ~~heard accounts~~ from people who were harmed, not ~~just~~ the banned person~~'s perspective~~?		# '''Can I articulate the harm they caused?''' Have I done the work to understand - from people who were harmed, not the banned person - what actually happened and who was affected?
	# '''Am I prepared to ask them to leave if needed?''' If their behavior regresses, can you be the one to enforce boundaries?		# '''Am I prepared to ask them to leave if needed?''' If their behavior regresses, can you be the one to enforce boundaries?

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	== Your Responsibilities as a Sponsor ==		== Your Responsibilities as a Sponsor ==

	=== Before the Return ===		=== Before the Return: Understand the Harm ===

			'''Your primary responsibility as a sponsor is to understand the harm that was caused.''' This is non-negotiable. If you cannot articulate at a meeting what harm was caused and who was harmed, you have no credibility as a sponsor.

			This requires extensive discovery:

			* '''Read the 86 page entry''' - But don't stop there. The entry is intentionally minimal.
			* '''Talk to people who were harmed''' - Not just witnesses, but the people who experienced the harm directly. Listen without defending.
			* '''Talk to people who were present''' - Get multiple perspectives on what happened and the context around it.
			* '''Don't rely on the banned person's account''' - They have every reason to minimize or reframe. You need independent understanding.
			* '''Identify who would feel unsafe''' - Through your conversations, find out which community members would feel unsafe around, or be completely unwelcoming towards, the person you want to sponsor. This is critical information.

			Only after you have done this work can you:

	* '''Talk to stewards''' - Before bringing anyone back, reach out to steward-level contributors (longer-term members, board members, proven-trustworthy regulars) to gauge receptiveness and discuss terms
	* '''Understand the original harm''' - Read the 86 page entry, talk to people who were involved. Don't rely solely on the banned person's account.
	* '''Set clear expectations''' - Make sure the person you're sponsoring understands this is probationary and conditional		* '''Set clear expectations''' - Make sure the person you're sponsoring understands this is probationary and conditional
	* '''Negotiate terms''' - Work with ~~stewards~~ to establish what "probation" looks like: time limits, restricted areas, specific behaviors to demonstrate, etc.		* '''Negotiate terms''' - Work with community members to establish what "probation" looks like: time limits, restricted areas, specific behaviors to demonstrate, etc.

	=== During the Probationary Period ===		=== During the Probationary Period ===
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	* '''Check in regularly''' - Both with the person you sponsored and with others in the community about how it's going		* '''Check in regularly''' - Both with the person you sponsored and with others in the community about how it's going
	* '''Enforce boundaries''' - If the person violates terms of their return, you may need to be the one to ask them to leave		* '''Enforce boundaries''' - If the person violates terms of their return, you may need to be the one to ask them to leave
	* '''Communicate with ~~stewards~~''' - Keep ~~the community~~ informed about how probation is progressing		* '''Communicate with the community''' - Keep people informed about how probation is progressing
	* '''Accept feedback''' - If people raise concerns, take them seriously. Don't dismiss them to defend your sponsee.		* '''Accept feedback''' - If people raise concerns, take them seriously. Don't dismiss them to defend your sponsee.

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	* '''Increased scrutiny''' - People will be watching more closely than normal		* '''Increased scrutiny''' - People will be watching more closely than normal
	* '''Quick consequences''' - Less tolerance for behavior that would normally get a warning		* '''Quick consequences''' - Less tolerance for behavior that would normally get a warning
	* '''Regular check-ins''' - With the sponsor and ~~sometimes with stewards~~		* '''Regular check-ins''' - With the sponsor and community members
	* '''Gradual trust-building''' - The person earns back trust through demonstrated behavior over time, not through a single grand gesture		* '''Gradual trust-building''' - The person earns back trust through demonstrated behavior over time, not through a single grand gesture

Nthmost: New page: Guide for sponsors bringing someone back from the 86 page

2025-12-31T09:47:23Z

New page: Guide for sponsors bringing someone back from the 86 page

New page

{{gettingalong}}

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This page is for current Noisebridge community members considering sponsoring someone's return from the [[86]] page. Read this carefully before agreeing to sponsor anyone.
{{boxend}}

__TOC__

== What Does It Mean to Sponsor Someone? ==

When you sponsor someone's return from the 86 page, you are '''putting your own social capital on the line'''. You're telling the community: "I believe this person has changed, and I'm willing to stake my reputation on it."

This is a significant commitment. If things go well, you helped someone get a second chance. If things go badly, '''the community will remember that you vouched for this person''' - and it will affect how much weight your future vouches carry.

== Before You Agree to Sponsor ==

=== Ask Yourself These Questions ===

# '''Do I actually know this person well enough?''' Not just their version of events, but their patterns of behavior over time?
# '''Have I witnessed genuine change?''' Not just apologies, but observable differences in how they handle conflict, take responsibility, and respect boundaries?
# '''Am I prepared to be present and involved?''' Sponsoring isn't just getting someone in the door - it's active involvement during their probationary period.
# '''Am I doing this for the right reasons?''' Friendship alone isn't enough. You need to genuinely believe this benefits Noisebridge, not just your friend.
# '''Do I understand what got them 86'd?''' Have I heard accounts from people who were harmed, not just the banned person's perspective?
# '''Am I prepared to ask them to leave if needed?''' If their behavior regresses, can you be the one to enforce boundaries?

If you can't answer "yes" to all of these, you should probably decline.

== Your Responsibilities as a Sponsor ==

=== Before the Return ===

* '''Talk to stewards''' - Before bringing anyone back, reach out to steward-level contributors (longer-term members, board members, proven-trustworthy regulars) to gauge receptiveness and discuss terms
* '''Understand the original harm''' - Read the 86 page entry, talk to people who were involved. Don't rely solely on the banned person's account.
* '''Set clear expectations''' - Make sure the person you're sponsoring understands this is probationary and conditional
* '''Negotiate terms''' - Work with stewards to establish what "probation" looks like: time limits, restricted areas, specific behaviors to demonstrate, etc.

=== During the Probationary Period ===

* '''Be physically present''' - When possible, be at Noisebridge at the same time as the person you sponsored
* '''Check in regularly''' - Both with the person you sponsored and with others in the community about how it's going
* '''Enforce boundaries''' - If the person violates terms of their return, you may need to be the one to ask them to leave
* '''Communicate with stewards''' - Keep the community informed about how probation is progressing
* '''Accept feedback''' - If people raise concerns, take them seriously. Don't dismiss them to defend your sponsee.

=== If Things Go Wrong ===

If the person you sponsored reverts to harmful behavior:

* '''Act quickly''' - Don't wait for it to escalate
* '''Take responsibility''' - You vouched for them. Acknowledge that.
* '''Help enforce the consequence''' - You may need to be the one who asks them to leave again
* '''Learn from it''' - This doesn't mean never sponsor anyone again, but it should inform your judgment going forward

== What Probation Looks Like ==

There's no standard template - each situation is different. But probation typically involves:

* '''A defined time period''' - Often several months
* '''Increased scrutiny''' - People will be watching more closely than normal
* '''Quick consequences''' - Less tolerance for behavior that would normally get a warning
* '''Regular check-ins''' - With the sponsor and sometimes with stewards
* '''Gradual trust-building''' - The person earns back trust through demonstrated behavior over time, not through a single grand gesture

Trust is rebuilt '''individually, not collectively'''. Different community members will come to trust the person again at different rates - or not at all. That's normal and acceptable.

== What You're NOT Responsible For ==

* '''Making everyone like them again''' - That's not your job and it's not possible to force
* '''Their behavior after probation ends''' - At some point, they're responsible for themselves
* '''Convincing skeptics''' - Some people may never trust your sponsee again. That's their prerogative.

== Why This Matters ==

The sponsorship system exists because '''trust can only be rebuilt through individual relationships'''. There's no committee that can vote someone trustworthy. There's no form they can fill out.

When you sponsor someone, you're providing the bridge between the community's need for accountability and the possibility of genuine redemption. It's a valuable role - but only if you take it seriously.

If you're not willing to accept the responsibility and risk involved, '''it's better to say no'''. There's no shame in declining. In fact, declining when you're uncertain is itself a form of excellent community stewardship.

== See Also ==

* [[Path_to_86]] - How someone ends up on (and gets off) the 86 page
* [[86]] - The list of banned individuals
* [[Conflict Resolution]] - Overview of how we handle conflicts
* [[Mediation]] - The mediation process

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	If the person you sponsored reverts to harmful behavior:		If the person you sponsored reverts to harmful behavior:

	* '''Act quickly''' - Don't wait for it to escalate		* '''Act quickly''' - Don't wait for it to escalate.
	* '''Take responsibility''' - You vouched for them. Acknowledge that.		* '''Take responsibility''' - You vouched for them. Acknowledge that.
	* '''Help enforce the consequence''' - You may need to be the one who asks them to leave again		* '''Help enforce the consequence''' - You may need to be the one who asks them to leave again.
	* '''Learn from it''' - This doesn't mean never sponsor anyone again, but it should inform your judgment going forward		* '''Learn from it''' - This doesn't mean never sponsor anyone again, but it should inform your judgment going forward.

	== What Probation Looks Like ==		== What Probation Looks Like ==
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	There's no standard template - each situation is different. But probation typically involves:		There's no standard template - each situation is different. But probation typically involves:

	* '''A defined time period''' - ~~Often several~~ months		* '''A defined time period''' - Possibly some number of months
			* '''Defined time windows''' - Spans of time when this person CAN be there, outside of which they should not be. This is the best way to make it possible for more skeptical community members to "titrate" their exposure to this person.
	* '''Increased scrutiny''' - People will be watching more closely than normal		* '''Increased scrutiny''' - People will be watching more closely than normal
	* '''Quick consequences''' - Less tolerance for behavior that would normally get a warning		* '''Quick consequences''' - Less tolerance for behavior that would normally get a warning
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	* '''Gradual trust-building''' - The person earns back trust through demonstrated behavior over time, not through a single grand gesture		* '''Gradual trust-building''' - The person earns back trust through demonstrated behavior over time, not through a single grand gesture

	Trust is rebuilt '''individually, not collectively'''. Different community members will come to trust the person again at different rates - or not at all~~. That's normal and acceptable~~.		Trust is rebuilt '''individually, not collectively'''. Different community members will come to trust the person again at different rates - or not at all.

	== What You're NOT Responsible For ==		== What You're NOT Responsible For ==
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	* '''Making everyone like them again''' - That's not your job and it's not possible to force		* '''Making everyone like them again''' - That's not your job and it's not possible to force
	* '''Their behavior after probation ends''' - At some point, they're responsible for themselves		* '''Their behavior after probation ends''' - At some point, they're responsible for themselves
	* '''Convincing skeptics''' - Some people may never trust your sponsee again. That's their prerogative.

	== Why This Matters ==		== Why This Matters ==